Lessons I have Learned - Family Home Evening

At different times during our 12 years in the church we have had Family Home Evening. I have been told by different people what Family Home Evening is all about. I have been told that it must have a song, prayer, lesson and treat be considered FHE. I have been told that it can be as simple as spending time together. I have been told that it should be educational and always carry a message.
I have tried different things with my children and I know the concept is to grow closer together as a family and build the eternal relationships. It is hard with teenagers. I did well when they were younger but as they got older and started working and having school activities in the evenings and just everyone going different ways, I have fell away from the Monday night ritual. I now try to spend quality time with my kids whenever they are home. Sometimes we talk about church issues, sometimes we play games, and sometimes we watch movies together. I use to feel like a failure because I did not have Monday night lessons but now I am o.k. with it. I know that I spend time with my kids to the best of our abilities. I wish life were perfect and we could have the perfect FHE with songs and lessons and all that but I am grateful to be able to spend time together, even if it is not on Monday evening!